Amber's Story - Overcoming Self Hate
IT ALL STARTED WHEN...
I met Amber for a wardrobe consultation for a Boudoir Shoot. She was coming out of a bad break up and really needed to FIND herself. She was lost. We talked alot and decided we would do a Bare Bones shoot and a Boudoir/Glamour type shoot. Super excited to work with her.
After her shoot, she signed up for my Body Image Coaching Program (called Perfectly Imperfect Body Image Boot Camp - now called Get Unfucked), and I have seen her grow soooooo much.
“What were you hoping to get out of body image boot camp?
To be able to look in the mirror and be okay with my reflection. To realize I am enough. To be a better parent.
What was the biggest lesson you learned in boot camp?
It’s all about your mindset. You have the ability to unfuck yourself. You are in control of your life. Self care!!!
When did you have your “A-HA MOMENT”?
The SHERO lesson with Jentrey. Making excuses. Stop waiting for some one to save me when I have the power to save myself.
How has your confidence been improved since graduating boot camp?
What’s your biggest piece of advice to give to someone who is struggling with their body image/confidence?
You are enough and you are worth it right this second, right now, this life, this body! You. Are. Worth. It. You deserve all the love this world is capable of giving and it starts by you getting to love yourself!”
Hear the change for yourself in her Naked Mirror Challenges!
THE DAY MY PICTURE WAS TAKEN...
"It's hard to fully put into words when you actually love yourself. You don't even realize how far you have come until some random moment occurs and you think to yourself wow, I never would have done that before. That moment for me was when my picture was taken. I was in Elaine's studio helping her with a "beautiful if" project. I took off my shirt, she wrote a message on my body, took my picture, and I left. It wasn't until I sat for a minute to realize what I had just done. I got my picture taken and didn't even bat an eye. It didn't bring me anxiety. It didn't feel like the room was spinning. I didn't cry. This was it. This was my moment. I. loved. Myself. I loved my body. I knew I was good enough. I was perfect just the way I was. I am worthy. I am worthy of love. I am worthy of self care. I am worthy of being photographed. I think I spent so long hating myself that I needed that moment. It was finally my realization that my mindset had shifted. My first thoughts are no longer negative. The inner mean girl in my head no longer dominated what I thought about myself or my body. So even though she still makes an appearance from time to time, I know now that I am strong enough to kick her ass to the curb because I love myself too much to listen. It just took the day I was photographed to truly realize it. That was my moment, and to me that will be forever priceless." - Amber (she sent this to me on 1/20/18)